Monday, February 28, 2011

Loss, Despair and copious amounts of alcohol

Two things you should know about me:
My pets are like my children
In the past year I have lost three(... possibly four) of them for various reasons

         My dog is on the brink of disaster. It has finally come down to losing the last family dog, and I honestly don't think I can make it through another death and burial. I don't think I have the strength to lose another or the will power to make it through and to keep doing what needs to be done. I really feel like I might fall apart (I probably look like an idiot sitting here on campus crying as I type into my laptop, but I honestly can't are what people think at this moment.) I really feel like I have reached the limits of my strength, the limit of my grin and bear it quota. I'm trying not to tunnel into a pit of despair, but really, I don't know that there is any alternative. Imagine if you will how you would feel if you lost four children in less than a year.

       Let me elaborate a little, last March my very favorite, most special dog ever had a stroke and died after three days of complete paralysis. I was heartbroken. I didn't know what to do without him. He had been my very best friend, had been there through thick and thin from the time I was twelve until twenty-four. He was the one thing I thought I could absolutely not live without and when he died, I felt grief like I never knew could exist. I was utterly heartbroken (I think I still am). Two weeks later, our other dog, Joe was diagnosed with lymphoma cancer. He deteriorated quickly and died exactly three weeks after Buck. Again I was sad, but it was nothing compared to the first one. Then in June, I was out of town housesitting, and I got a call that my sisters pit bull Dozer got hit by a car. It was her fault for not putting him on his lead when she left as he was an escape artist, but it was not any less shocking. That was three dogs in less than six months. We went quickly from having four dogs to having one. I was distraught at best.

         Normally, bad things happen in threes (at least that has always been my experience) so I thought that my loss of pets had been tapped. I had lost three for me that was enough. This weekend however things changed. Hannah has always been a challenge. I honestly never thought she'd be the one to live longer than the others. Hannah is epileptic, she went from having one seizure a year to several a year to a couple a month. I had gotten used to her seizures. She had also had surgery twice, and had to be watched constantly for relapses. Thursday she began to have a prolapsing rectum again. She had had this problem before and it would normally go away since she has been previously treated for it. This time though it did not. Actually, at first it did. I thought she would be okay.

          She is not. Today she has an appointment at the vet, and I fear it is the end for my sweet, sweet Hannah. I fear that there is nothing they can do for her prolapse. I fear that I will be down to no dogs in less than a year and I can't help but feel sorrowful and full of heartache. I missed the others. I missed Buck, I still miss him, but now that I am losing Hannah too, I am a wreck and I'm not sure how to fix it. I don't think this is a problem I can fix with a puppy, I don't think this is a problem I can fix with copious amounts of alcohol and sleep (though both I'm sure will help.) I don't know what to do. All I really can do is wait the day out, and see what the vet says when she goes in at three. All I really want is for her to not be in pain anymore. All I really want is for her to not suffer anymore. I just want relief for her. But I will miss her.

Monday, February 14, 2011

English is Fun!

I am going to try something new. (Apparently I am all about new things this year.) I am a Teaching Major at chico state that I'm sure you know, But did you know that I am also a Creative Writing minor? I am going to post a short story I wrote for my Creative Fiction class. I'm not sure if it is worthy, but I wrote and would Love, Love, Love some opinions. Also, Happy Valentines Day!


Awake.
            I lay my head on the soft cool pillow. The wind blew heavy outside, strong and fierce, the rain beat down on the roof above me, but I felt safe and secure in my home, in my bed, completely enveloped in the soft down comforter that surrounded my body.  I tried to sleep, but the weather outside made it difficult. The storm had begun to pick-up. The water beat down hard and heavy, and sounded as if it would break through the ceramic tiles above. I buried my head deeper into the enveloping pillow, in an attempt to block out the noise outside. A bright flash cast shadows on the walls around me, and I knew this storm wouldn’t give up without a fight.
            It had been a long week and my body was tired, my mind was tired, my eyes were tired. Sleep however, eluded me. The rain fell hard and heavy, the wind blew in gales outside. Another brilliant white flash filled the room and cast shadows on the walls and the ceiling. I counted slowly in my head. The thunderhead roared with ferocious tenacity, it was closer than it had been, only ten Mississippi, but still far enough away to create a small amount of piece of mind. I closed my eyes. I imagined the black car driving on the road in this storm. I imagined his inability to pay attention. I imagined his optimism, his never-fail positive out look on life. He truly believed nothing bad would ever happen to him. I however knew that bad things happened all the time. I knew it would come. Sooner or later.
            I snuggled further into the blankets. I buried my head deeper into the now warm pillow. I listened to the rain beat heavy on the ceramic roof tiles. I listened to the trees brushing against the window, against the side of the house. I heard branches crash down onto pavement. Heard the splash as a branch hit the surface of the pool outside. The floor creaked. The dog whimpered. I sat up, flicked the bedside lamp on and looked around the room. It was in truth the very same room it had always been. I was freaking out for no reason. Calm down. Take a few deep breaths and calm yourself. Maybe he is right; maybe it will all be all right in the end. I looked around the room again. The anxious feeling had become a deeper feeling of sheer boredom. I sighed and picked up a book from the side table. Focus on reading. That will help take your mind off things. As I read I tried to put all thoughts of him out of my mind. I tried to focus on the story I was reading. In truth it was a good book. A love story. I had been craving a good romance and the librarian recommended the series. She was a tall aging woman who always dressed in well-tailored suits and wore her gray hair high on her head in one of those French twists that always look ridiculous on me. She didn’t look like a librarian, but she knew more about books than anyone I knew and always had the perfect recommendation for me. I always enjoyed her recommendations.
            The book had done its job well. I was enjoying the romance. I was enjoying the characters. It had gotten my mind off the storm. I read for a while. The lightning was continuing outside, but the lamp I had turned on made it less obvious. The dog whimpered. I looked at him. He was lying on the floor beside the bed; his eyes open staring at me.
            “What are you whining about?” I watched him. His tail started wagging. “Come on you big oaf.” I invited him onto the bed and he came quickly, and with an exaggerated sigh lay next to me, his head resting heavy on my legs.
            I continued reading the book. I glance over at the dog, who had lifted his head and was staring at the bedroom door. His ears were lifted. He was listening.
            “What is it? Do you hear something?” I laid my hand on his head. He began to wag his tail.
            I tried to follow the dog’s gaze. He was watching the door, but he could have heard something anywhere in the house. I heard the storm outside. I heard the water hit the tiles above me. I heard the wind blowing hard against the walls of the house. I paused. I heard a gentle roar. His engine? I waited for a moment. I didn’t hear a car door close. Didn’t hear anyone come in. I gave up. I was making something out of nothing. Again. He always hated when I did that. Told me to relax. To stop worrying about what wasn’t happening.
            In the kitchen I heard a loud crashing sound. It sounded as if the world were falling. The dog heard it too. He let go a sharp ‘woof’. I set the book beside me, slid out of bed and walked slowly to the bedroom door. I pulled the doorknob and moved quickly to the hallway light switch. I listened. The dogs feet stepped lightly against the hardwood floors. He was following me, his tail moving slowly side to side. I tiptoed to the top of the staircase, the dog following along beside me. It was dark downstairs; the nightlight at the bottom gave enough of a glow that I could see each stair as I crept down slowly. One stair at a time. Some creaked as I stepped, most did not.
            I flicked on the light in the kitchen glanced around and saw nothing. The dog ran over to his food dish and had a couple of bites, his tail still swishing back and forth. The kitchen was the same as it had been when I had gone to bed hours ago. The dishes were still in the drying rack, the pots and pans still hung above the stove. The drawers and cabinets all closed tightly. Nothing was out of place. I sighed. The dog had moved to his water dish. Get a hold of yourself, old girl. I listened. The rain was less noisy down here. The wind less fierce. It was in essence a much calmer house. The dog finished drinking and trotted over to his bed in the living room. I followed turning on lights as I went, first the front entryway, then the living room. The dog lay down in his bed and closed his eyes. I sat on the sofa, pulled the afghan off the back and picked up the remote. I didn’t expect to find anything on TV, but at least it would keep me busy.
            I sat on the sofa flipping through the channels. I was tired. I curled up on the sofa beneath my afghan and closed my eyes. The wind was blowing, the rain falling. Another flash of lightning fell from the sky. One Mississippi. Two Mississippi. Three Mississippi. Four. The thunder rolled in like a thousand Indians drumming loud, fast and hard. It was getting closer. I felt the anxiety creep up my spine. Float in my mind and sit like a disease waiting to spread. I kept my eyes closed. I concentrated on the darkness. Sleep would make everything better. Sleep would make this night end. All I could see was his car driving on the road in this weather. He would not be paying any attention to the storm around him, just pushing on with the knowledge that nothing could ever hurt him. I knew better, people get hurt all the time.
            I listened to the storm. I listened to the rain, to the wind and the thunder. I kept my eyes closed. In the morning, everything would hopefully be back to normal. The TV was going in the background. I listened to the sounds the house made. Listened to the dog sleeping. He was dreaming, I could hear his whimpers and his feet moving against the wood floor. The house creaked and moaned. The dog jumped up to his feet quickly and barked. Loud and fierce. He glared toward the back door and barked. I jumped to my feet; the remote fell to the ground with a thunk. I moved slowly to the back door, gripping the wall all the way. I turned on the porch light; the wind had made a mess out of the backyard. The dog stood next to me barking out the door, but I saw nothing.
            “What is it? What did you hear?” I asked
            He sat down next to my foot and whined a little before slumping to the ground. I sighed. I saw nothing outside, and made the assumption that he had simply heard the wind. I knew I hadn’t heard anything. I walked slowly to the kitchen, opened the refrigerator and poured myself a glass of juice. I sipped slowly while I moved slowly back to the sofa. The channel had changed from the detective show that had been on to a movie I knew, but couldn’t identify.
            I sipped my juice and watched the movie. I wrapped the afghan around my shoulders and sat just watching. Waiting. The dog came slowly around the corner and lay down on my foot. The storm outside had quieted down. The rain fell lightly. The wind had stopped blowing and the thunder had passed. I lay my head on the arm of the sofa. The front door swung open quickly and fiercely. I jumped off of the sofa. The dog jumped up and ran over to the door growling.
            “Hey, buddy it’s okay. Shhh!” Benjamin walked in the door and closed it behind him slowly. The dog wagged his tail and sat waiting. “Mom, what are you doing awake? I thought you would be sleeping.” He hung his coat in the closet.
            “I couldn’t sleep. I’m so glad you are home. This storm was madness.”
            “No kidding! It really was. Oh my god Mom, I had so much fun tonight. Thanks for letting me go. You really are the coolest Mom ever.”
            I smiled at him. He hugged me and ran upstairs in a few short strides. I took a deep breath and sighed. I was relieved that he had come home. Relieved that he was all right. I chuckled a little at my silly habit of worrying over him when he was out. I locked the front door, turned off the TV and the lights before going upstairs. I stopped at his bedroom door. He had turned on some music. I knocked, and he invited me in.
            “I just wanted to say goodnight. I’m glad you had a fun night.”
            “Thanks mom. Goodnight.” He smiled at me and went back to the video game he had started.
            I sat down on the edge of my bed. I had freaked myself out for no real good reason and was now really very tired. I lay my head on the soft pillow, which had again become cool. The storm had died down, the rain was falling softly above, the wind was gone. I closed my eyes and found it easy to fall asleep now that he was safe at home.




Wednesday, February 9, 2011

Lost Eyelashes= One Terrible Day

Apparently if you are fifteen, the loss of your false eyelashes is a life or death, end of the world, Armageddon type event.

I leave the house at 6:45 on Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays. Just before I leave I wake up Jessie the fifteen year old.

This morning as I was on the bus to campus, I got a call that not only had the sky fallen, but the world was crumbling around her because she couldn't find her false eyelashes. The loss of said eyelashes was of course MY FAULT.

I should expect this. I should not be wondering how this could be my fault when I know that things always end up being my fault for some reason or another. If I am cleaning and I move something it is my fault when she can't find it. If she loses her homework it is my fault because I didn't look through the trash before I threw it out. If the cat pees on something it is my fault for having a cat and the dog hair that covers our house like a carpet at times is also my fault for insisting that we have pets. So naturally, I should not have been surprised when the missing false eyelashes --that she wears to school every day-- became my fault. Her reasoning, I was the first one up.

Some background on this incident: Last night when she took them off she set them on the coffee table. I informed her that this was not where we keep eyelashes, and that she should move them before they go missing. (Foreshadowing? intuition? Nope, I just know teenagers.) She insisted she would. But as I was turning out the lamp for bedtime, I noticed they were still there. In my defense, I did not move myself them for fear of the teenage wrath that comes when I move her stuff. So instead they spent the night on the coffee table. This morning around seven she called me frantically (you will recall the sky is falling perviously mentioned.) HER EYELASHES WERE LOST. In a mom inspired moment, I said that perhaps she should learn to put her things away, if she had they would not have gotten lost. She informed me that I should learn to not touch the things she doesn't put away. And I am now responsible for buying her a new pair and that she is now pissed and her day has been ruined. (Drama Queen Much?)

I apparently also need to learn to be more careful in the morning when I am getting dressed because obviously this includes the coffee table. (I would be willing to make a bet that as soon as I get home tonight I will find them, because whenever said teenager is sent to look for something she becomes blind and incapable. She can't find anything, mainly because she doesn't really look.)

I am of the opinion that the loss of false eyelashes is not the end all be all of the day. This does not a tragedy make. When I informed her of this i got hysterics on the other end of the phone line. Apparently I don't understand that for a teenager nowadays, it does in fact create a terrible day if one loses her false eyelashes. I simply don't get it.

Am I alone in thinking this a non-issue?  I think that there are so many other things that can ruin your day. The loss of eyelashes because you chose not to put them away is not one of them. I can only hope that a lesson has been learned. Ahhh! The beauty of perspective.

Monday, February 7, 2011

What WAS I thinking?

I am worn out. Physically, Mentally. Totally. Worn out.

I'm pretty sure that I have posted about my hell-ish schedule, the one where I wake up at 5am three times a week and get home after six every night and after nine on Wednesdays. (It is pretty much going to be the death of me)

This weekend, because it is required, and because it was paid for by my tuition, I spent the entire weekend in a CPR certification class. That means that I had no weekend, it also means that I had to get up at five on Saturday and Sunday. Today is monday (another 5am type day) and I am not really certain I will make it through the day.

On top of classes, giving up my weekend, and homework, I have recently discovered that there is a gym on campus that we pay for through our tuition. This gym is seriously amazing, so last thursday I started going. I have gone now four out of five days. I skipped Friday since I knew I would have so much to do over the weekend. I am enjoying the feeling of finally working out. It's healthy. It's good for me and it is really very necessary.

While all of these were necessary evils, I am feeling the effects and am walking around in a half conscious, half dazed zombie-like state. I'll be the one in the back of class trying to keep awake. I'll be the one with the zombie-like stare and glazed eyes.

There is an over-arching theme in all of this, as I'm sure you have deduced. I need a day off. I considered taking Monday off. I really, really wanted to take monday off. However if I took monday off I would miss the assignment for wednesday and be out of luck for both Monday and Wednesday, so taking monday off is not an option. The nearest day off I can see on the horizon is Saturday.

In summation, it's monday, I have been in class for eight days straight and will continue to be in class for the rest of the week.